I used to believe that men and women could be “just friends.” Recently I have come to realize that this may not actually be true at all. Because of my own circumstances I thought it was possible, but now that I think about it, this seems unlikely.
One reason this is unlikely is because of the mere exposure effect. The more you are exposed to a person, the more likely you are to develop a crush on them, date them, or even spend the rest of your life with them. This is why many people end up with someone they met in the workplace, or just a place they spend a lot of their time.
We can think of mere exposure in other, less frightening ways… ever wonder why things “grow on us?” You walk into a room and don’t like the new paint color, and someone says, “it will grow on you.” What happens? Usually it does. I’m not saying this is always the case, some colors are hideous and this is not always possible… but you get the idea.
The more you are exposed to a person, the more you like them. Well crap! Right?! Maybe this doesn’t happen for you. Maybe you are with a person a lot of the time, and nothing happens… you think. Well what about for the other person? You may think you know their every thought, but you don’t.
I know, I know, this is the crap they put in movies about the best friends of the opposite sex who suddenly fall in love… or one of the people does. Well they didn’t pull this scenario out of thin air. Lets just sum this up by saying, think about it. Its not true for everyone, I never generalize to entire populations. Just be careful and try not to assume.
Like my mom always says… “it makes an ass out of you and me.”