Valentine’s Day is one of my favorite holidays. It always has been, even when I was single, even when I was depressed. There is something magical about a day devoted to love. The one thing I hate about Valentine’s Day is the people who hate Valentine’s Day; people who call it “single’s awareness day.” Yes, media advertises Valentine’s Day as a day for couples to celebrate their love, a day for proposals, a day to have a first date.
How I have always seen Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate LOVE in general. I give my mom a Valentine, I text people I care about, I make cards for people, I give people candy, I remind EVERYONE I love that I love them!
The way I see it is, Valentine’s Day is shitty and depressing if YOU make it shitty and depressing- just like any other day. If you think love is worth celebrating, celebrate it! Bake things for people, go out with a friend, send cards, and buy candy. Make a date for YOU! There is nothing depressing about loving yourself.
Life is about attitudes. If you have a shitty attitude, life sucks. You can change it in an instant. You can even choose to ignore Valentine’s Day. It is a regular day where people still have to work, after all. Just don’t shit all over everyone who DOES love Valentine’s Day. We get it, you’re single, you’re sad, and you want attention too. Either keep it to yourself or change your day by changing your attitude.
I used to believe that men and women could be “just friends.” Recently I have come to realize that this may not actually be true at all. Because of my own circumstances I thought it was possible, but now that I think about it, this seems unlikely.
One reason this is unlikely is because of the mere exposure effect. The more you are exposed to a person, the more likely you are to develop a crush on them, date them, or even spend the rest of your life with them. This is why many people end up with someone they met in the workplace, or just a place they spend a lot of their time.
We can think of mere exposure in other, less frightening ways… ever wonder why things “grow on us?” You walk into a room and don’t like the new paint color, and someone says, “it will grow on you.” What happens? Usually it does. I’m not saying this is always the case, some colors are hideous and this is not always possible… but you get the idea.
The more you are exposed to a person, the more you like them. Well crap! Right?! Maybe this doesn’t happen for you. Maybe you are with a person a lot of the time, and nothing happens… you think. Well what about for the other person? You may think you know their every thought, but you don’t.
I know, I know, this is the crap they put in movies about the best friends of the opposite sex who suddenly fall in love… or one of the people does. Well they didn’t pull this scenario out of thin air. Lets just sum this up by saying, think about it. Its not true for everyone, I never generalize to entire populations. Just be careful and try not to assume.
Like my mom always says… “it makes an ass out of you and me.”