Draw the Line

Throughout my life I have been told many things about how I should deal with difficult people. I’ve been told to “be the bigger person” by being the first to apologize. I’ve been told to be nice to so and so, to be accepting, to be patient, to be kind. I even tell myself these things, to just deal with certain people. In many situations, this is good advice. But where do we draw the line? At some point, we have to think about ourselves, and our own well-being. I came across this quote recently, thanks to Facebook sharing:


I think that this is 100% true. There are certain people, no matter if they are family or friends, who are not worth being around. There are some people that cause so much emotional damage, stress, drama, physical damage and I truly do not believe in associating with such individuals.

I have had people in my life who have caused me tremendous emotional pain and stress that I decided it just wasn’t worth it anymore. If I made one wrong move, or said one wrong thing my life would practically start to fall apart because of this person. I cried, I stressed, and I got ulcers, intense headaches and depression. There were absolutely no benefits that I could think of to make me stay close with this person.

I know that it seems harsh to cut a person out of your life. But I truly believe that in some cases, the benefits outweigh the loss. I no longer have this stress in my life, and I have no regrets about it. I’m happy, and currently have no emotional pain. I had to think about myself, and I’m glad that I did.